Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Myths about Circumcision You Likely Believe

Yesterday a friend of mine shared an article about circumcision.  I was surprised to see that she posted it since she circumcised her son.  This is what she had to say:

"Great article, the best I've ever read. Its very long, 6 parts but well worth the read. As the mother of a circumcised boy I tend to avoid these kinds of articles like the plague because I don't like people making me feel bad about a decision I made because I felt it was in my child's best interests. 

But as a parent I'm always trying to improve myself when it comes to things like carseat safety and parenting method. I always find myself learning more and more about what I'm doing wrong and I love learning so I can be a better parent for D and to my future children, so why would I not want to learn more about circumcision? Because there is soooo much conflicting information! This site says its best to not circumcise, this site says that site is lying that circumcision is best, this site... says that they are both laying and you should only cut off half... you get the gist. 

So once I made what I felt was an informed decision I stuck with it and didn't want to read anymore about it or watch any videos to make me feel the pain I felt when I handed Derek off to the surgeon, because what mother would want to relive that? I hoped I'd never have another boy so I didn't have to battle myself about this decision again, and I knew that if I had been a single parent D would still be intact because without Hubby wanting the circumcision I couldn't have done it, even if it had been for the best. 

But something urged me to read this article and I did, then I made Hubby (my stubborn husband who is very VERY pro circumcision) read it and we've come to the decision that we aren't going to circumcise any more of our children. So please just read this, it is chalk full of information and has actual references =)"

I applaud my friend of taking the plunge to find out more information.  I know it's not easy to learn the truth, but it is so important to try to continue to learn and to grow so we can be the best people and parents we can be.

Before i ever became pregnant my husband and i had decided that if we were to ever have a boy that they would be circumcised.  We felt that way because my husband is circumcised and because i thought that was just what you did.  I feel stupid now for begin so ignorant.   It was when my sister was pregnant with her first that she first introduced the idea of NOT circumcising to me.  I didn't even really realize that was an option! (again, i feel so stupid that i thought that)  I started to do my real research and i was blown away by everything i did not know.  I was so THANKFUL that i had found this information out before we ever had a son.  It pains me to think of the pain we would have inflicted on our child just so they could 'look like his father' and because i though that's what you were supposed to do.  Circumcision is something you can never take back.  Once it is done it is done.  I now believe it is a choice that should be up to the person who owns that body part.  The foreskin serves a purpose.  I'm amazed at how much i have learned about this piece of skin.  I am sad that my husband did not have the choice when it came to his penis and i am sad for the impact it has had in both his *and* my life because his parents were given the wrong information and did not seek to learn more.  I'm sad that i did not know growing up that my own father and brothers are uncircumcised and that i did not grow up knowing that was normal.  Again, i am so thankful that *i* did learn more and that our views have changed.   If my views can change, if my friends views can change why can't yours?

What are you afraid of?  Knowledge is power and it is only when we know better that we do better.  By choosing not to do your research you are choosing to be ignorant and that can cause more harm that you know.

I want to share this article with you and to urge you to read it, no matter what your view point on circumcision is.  You never know how you will truly feel until you finally receive all the facts.  It might hurt to read this article if you have already circumcised your child but remember, when you know better you can do better.  And even i learned some things from this article, so everyone can benefit from reading it.

I love this quote from the article:
As parents, we are entrusted by God or the universe or by nature with the care of our babies.  They truly are a gift, but one that we do not get to keep.  We have a responsibility to care for them as best as we can, because they cannot speak nor care for themselves.  Though they are babies now, and we have to make decisions for them, they will be adults, with minds and feelings of their own.  We need to make decisions for them that we will be proud to stand behind now and in the future.  If your son asks you why you had him circumcised, how will you answer?  "Because I am circumcised and I needed your penis to match mine?"  "Because I didn't trust you to be able to make your own decisions?"  When making this decision for your son, be brutally honest with yourself.  What does your decision serve: the child's rights, or your ego?"

And with that, will you be the bigger person and learn more?

Myths about Circumcision You Likely Believe

(This article can be a tad confusing to follow.  You'll read the first part by following this link and then you click on each of the next parts (2-6) to read the other points)

EDIT:  My friend decided to create her own blog to she could share your opinions and views and she started with her story of her son's circumcision and her journey to finding out the truth.  You can read it here: http://hippie-mommy.blogspot.com/2011/12/how-i-changed-my-view-on-circumcision.html

Monday, December 12, 2011

My Issues with the Milwaukee Ad Campaign

I am a little late on writing about this i wanted to be sure to write about my opinions on this issue.

By now i am sure you've heard about the Milwaukee Co-Sleeping ads and the controversy surrounding them.  If you haven't, here's a short summary. 

In a campaign to end co-sleeping in Milwaukee a series of ads were released to the public in the hope that it will scare parents into stopping co-sleeping.  Milwaukee has high 'co-sleeping' death rates and officials are trying to use scare tactics to bring those numbers down.  According to their campaign, for every 1,000 babies born there, more than 10 die before their first birthday. Among black families, the number is even higher, 14 out of 1,000.

I have a lot of issues with this campaign.  The first has to do with these two ads.

Pretty scarry looking huh?  My issue is that actually, yes, these ads are true!  Because sleeping with your baby in a bed with blankets, pillows, no adult in sight and not on their back *IS* unsafe!  But the ads are not trying to say there is a safe way to co-sleep, no, they are saying that ANY co-sleeping is just as dangerous as putting a knife in bed with your baby which is simply untrue!

According to research (here here here here here here here here here here here here here here) co-sleping can be safe, if not beneficial.  As you can see from the article above, time and time again sound research comes out that says co-sleeping can be safe, if done correctly.  The above ads would be an example of co-sleeping being done incorrectly and therefor unsafe.

Another issue i have with this ad campaign is that instead of trying to educate the population on how to SAFELY co-sleep instead officials are lumping all co-sleeping into the "danger" category.  They are not taking into consideration families finacial or living situations that may lead them to co-sleep.  Milwaukee was ranked the 4th poorest city in the nation last year.  I'm sure many parents do not have the money to buy a seperate safe crib for their babies to sleep in (And this is specualtion but i'm sure many homes have many people living in them so there is also lack of space).  I know the ad campaign is giving away free 'cribs' for those who cannot afford a crib but this does not solve the infant death situation since what they are giving are 'pack N plays' and pose dangers for babies to sleep in.  They are specifically excluded from being classified as cribs by the Consumer Product Safety Commission, the federal agency that regulates the crib industry.

According to Consumer Reports:
"Play yards have also been associated with 47 infant deaths due to suffocation, strangulation, or entrapment, between 1999 and 2004 (the most recent CPSC statistics)."

(Thank you to The Feminist Breeder for this new information)
I feel that be telling parents it is unsafe to sleep in BED with their baby that parents are going to instead resort to other places like the couch or recliner which are obviously unsafe to sleep in with your baby.

Instead i feel that there should be a major education campaign to share SAFE co-sleeping habits with parents.  I really do feel that this would be the best way since they are not going to abolish co-sleeping 100%, parents are still going to do it so they might as well know how to do it *safely*.  And lets be honest, crib sleeping is not 100% safe either!  Cribs are linked with many accidents and deaths as well.

"The researchers found that there were an average of 9,500 injuries and more than 100 deaths each year occurring in relation to cribs, bassinets, and playpens. They found that 83% of the injures were related to cribs." Source

I mentioned in my previous co-sleeping post the reqirements for safe co-sleeping but i'll list them again for your ease of research (i know, i'm so nice)
 Katie Allison Granju, author of Attachment Parenting: Instinctive Care for Your Baby and Young Child (which is a book i highly recommend), recommends these safety factors when co-sleeping (many can be applied to crib sleep as well):
  • When using a standard, off-the-floor bed, be absolutely sure that your baby cannot roll or fall off the sides.
  • Young infants should sleep between their mother and the bed rail, not between both parents or beside an older sibling.
  • Make sure that your mattress or futon provides a firm sleeping surface.  Never, ever allow an infant to sleep on a waterbed, featherbed, beanbag, deep pillowtop mattress or other inappropriately soft surface.
  • Never sleep with your baby if you are under the influence of drugs, alcohol or prescription medication that makes you unusually groggy or sleepy.
  • Exceptionally obese parents should use a sidecar arrangement (crib attached to the side of the bed) rather than having a young infant in the bed with them.
  • Do not overload your bed with excessive pillows, blankets, or stuffed animals.
  • Never fall asleep on a couch, sofa, or overstuffed chair with your baby.
  • Do not stuff too many bodies into a bed with a small baby.
  • Make sure that your baby isn’t overdressed.  Remember, the body heat in a family bed makes most bedtime bundling unnecessary.
  • Dress your baby in safe sleepwear. Flame retardant with no strings or ties, just as you would if she were sleeping alone.
Another issue i have is with everyone saying that the babies died of SIDS in the family bed.  "Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) is the unexpected, sudden death of a child under age 1 in which an autopsy does not show an explainable cause of death."  Many many many many many times the news and officials will mix up death terms and say a baby died of co-sleeping when really it was SIDS or they will say a baby died of SIDS when they became entrapped between the mattress and the wall.  They are not the same thing and people need to stop treating them as such.  And yet another issue i have is that Milwaukee officials are saying there are all these deaths associated with 'co-sleeping' but they are including deaths from sleeping with a baby on the couch which should not be considered co-sleeping and it is just that type of thing that confuses people about the safety of co-sleeping. 

Here is a good little list of the facts of Co-Sleeping and SIDS.

In my previous post i shared that we co-sleep (bedshare) with our daughter.  She is now 15 months old and has spent every night of her life in bed with us.  I feel that this has kept her safe and made breastfeeding successful for us.  (She had undiagnosed reflux until 7 months old and did not nurse well during the day.  I belive it was our constant nursing at night that kept my supply up.)  I also shared the story of how my daughter stopped breathing and me sleeping with her i feel saved her (see my previous post for this story).

Yes there have been struggles in the last year with sleep but i plan on having all our babies sleep in our bed from the day they are born.  I wouldn't have it any other way.

I'm sorry if this post has been a bit jumpy and didn't flow well.  I was up all night with DD while she had a reaction to some crab she ate.  Crazy story there for another time. 

To end and summarize though i will share this news report from a Milwaukee news station.  It is a VERY good report that just goes to show you that you cannot always take what you hear as truth.

What are you opinions about this ad campaign?

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

King of Anything: A Reminder to All

Today i wanted to share my 'anthem' with you.  Well, it's one of mine.  I LOVE this song.  Not only because i could say everything in this song about how i feel about people's opinions about me, but also because it's a reminder to me that everyone has their freewill and they are allowed to make their own choices.  All i can do is provide the information and it's up to them to do the rest. 

The song is 'King of Anything' by Sara Bareilles

And the lyrics
"King Of Anything"

Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)

Keep drinkin' coffee
Stare me down across the table
While I look outside

So many things I'd say if only I were able
But I just keep quiet
And count the cars that pass by

You've got opinions, man
We're all entitled to 'em
But I never asked

So let me thank you for time
And try to not waste any more of mine
Get out of here fast

I hate to break it to you babe
But I'm not drowning
There's no one here to save

Who cares if you disagree
You are not me
Who made you king of anything
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died
And made you king of anything

Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)

You sound so innocent
All full of good intent
You swear you know best

But you expect me to
Jump up on board with you
Ride off into your delusional sunset

I'm not the one who's lost
With no direction oh
But you won't ever see

You're so busy makin' maps
With my name on them in all caps
You got the talkin' down just not the listening

And who cares if you disagree
You are not me
Who made you king of anything
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died
And made you king of anything

All my life
I've tried
To make everybody happy while I
Just hurt
And hide
Waitin' for someone to tell me it's my turn
To decide

Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)
Oh (oh oh oh)

Who cares if you disagree
You are not me
Who made you king of anything
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died
And made you king of anything

Who cares if you disagree
You are not me
Who made you king of anything
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died
And made you king of anything

Let me hold your crown, babe

Monday, October 31, 2011

The Greater Good

Today i watched a documentary that i wanted to share with everyone out there in the USA.  It's called 'The Greater Good'. 
'The Greater Good' is free to watch online till Nov 5
"The Greater Good looks behind the fear, hype and politics that polarize people into emotionally charged pro-vaccine or anti-vaccine camps with no room for middle ground. Exploring the cultural intersection where parenting meets modern medicine and individual rights collide with politics, this character driven documentary weaves together the stories of three families whose lives have been forever changed by vaccination. By reframing the vaccine debate and offering, for the first time, the opportunity to have a rational and scientific discussion on how to create a safer and more effective vaccine program in America today, The Greater Good challenges viewers to think again." source
"Back in the 1980s, children were asked to get 23 doses of 7 different vaccines. By 2010, parents are being asked to give their children 69 doses of 16 vaccines. That’s triple the dose of those recommended in the 1980s.
And today, many states have made certain vaccinations mandatory… with parents having little or NO say in whether or not their children will receive a vaccine.
Are we doing the right thing? Should all of this be stopped? Or, are we completely taking vaccines for granted?" source

I don't care if you are pro vaccine or anti vaccine, you need to watch this movie. It's about education and becoming informed.  If you have no knowledge you have no choice.  Knowledge is power and we need this power in our lives.  If you can't sit down and watch the whole movie at once (it's 1 hour and 20 min) then watch it in segments like i did.  However you need to just watch it. 
Follow this link to watch the film

And if you would like to own this documentary it is only $10.00 this week (it's normally $20.00)  You can purchase it here.http://shop.mercola.com//product/the-greater-good-dvd,881.htm

Monday, October 17, 2011

How to buckle a child into a 5 point harness

It's been a while since i've made a car seat safety post, but that doesn't mean i'm not as passionate about it as i was before, i just got too busy to sit down and make a post.  There has been a topic i've been wanting to talk about for a while when it comes to car seat saftey, but i didn't know how best to go about it.  Now i don't have to since The Car Seat Lady has done if for me!

Ok, so i've been wanting to talk about the correct way to buckle a child into a 5 point harness and to bring attention to the fact that many caregivers do this incorectly because they leave excess strap by the child's legs.  I wanted to explain what i mean when i say this and how to check for it and make sure you have a tight insilation.  Then today when i was on facebook i saw a video The Car Seat Lady posted and it was exactly what i wanted to share!  So that's just what i'll do!  

After watching this video a couple of times there should be no excuss for not buckling up a child correctly in their car seat.  And if you do still happen to have some problems (since all car seats are different), take action in your child's (or grandchild, nice, nephew or friend's) life and ASK FOR HELP.  That is why there are CPSTs, to help you keep your child safer in the car.  You can find a local one at Safe Kids USA or on the national CPS Certification website.  (and if you know me personally i know 2 CPSTs that would love to answer any questions you have!)

How to Buckle a Child into a Car Seat with a 5-Point Harness from The Car Seat Lady on Vimeo.

Please pass this post on to everyone you know!  As i've mentioned in other posts,
98% of people are not using their car seat correctly and at least three child endangering mistakes are made by most parents while installing car seats.  This is a huge issue!  Proper information needs to be passed around so that children can be kept as safe as possible while traveling in a car.  
If there is a child in your life that you care about, *please* do not stay quite,  pass this information on!

Thank You!

Thursday, October 13, 2011

The Commercialization of Childhood

Well, it's gearing up to be that time of year again when the store ads go out in full force and you cannot sit down to watch a tv show without being bombarded with commercials about all the things you HAVE to have this holiday season. 

Most of the time i don't give *too* much thought to this (although lately i have been getting rather annoyed with tv ads), but now that i have a daughter that i'm raising i'm giving more thought to the things around me.

And one thing that makes me sick is the over commercialization of children! 

Everywhere you turn someone is trying to sell something geared towards a child. Books, movies, toys, food, vacations, mouth wash, cars, cell phones, music, on and on and on.  It's all over the place.  And the sad and sick thing is they start from the very beginning!  Just take a stroll down the local baby aisle at the store and you'll see diapers with cartoon characters and baby shampoo with the same.  Why should a baby care who is on their shampoo bottle?  But the advertising departments of companies know that if they can get a child hooked on a brand as early as possible they have a better chance of having a customer for life.  So they are going to put characters that children (even babies!) recognize and love so they will want the product.

I for one am trying not to fall for it.  I *really* hate the over commercialization of everything around us.  I'm trying to put my foot down and limit the items our daughter has that are commercialized.  I don't want all her toys, clothes, food, etc to be covered in "advertising" (and in children's terms this normally means a cartoon character).  I want her to grow up to be able to think for herself and be free from the problems that arise from too much commercialization. 

As i mentioned before in my post, 'More Natural Play Please', i want our children to play with toys that build the imagination.  But often times when children play with toys from their 'favorite tv show' they only mimic what they saw on tv, instead of using past experiences and actually playing with their imagination. 

I just want our children to be free from the idea that things bring happiness.  I don't' want my children to think that in order to have a good meal it HAS to be from a name brand box, or in order to be 'cool' they HAVE to have the clothes from a certain store, etc etc.  Not only do i want them to have their *own* image, but i also don't want them to be a slave to the advertising industries and throwing money down the drain for things that do not matter, and will not bring true happiness. 

And this is why i'm trying to have toys that encourage imagination play, toys free from logos and strict rules.  It's why we do not have a TV in our home.  I know i can't shelter my children forever, but at least home can be a safe haven from the pressure from all around.

And if you've read all this and think that i'm some crazy nut of a mother, i encourage you to watch this documentary on the subject that i found on the Waldorf Today website.  It's called 'Consuming Kids: The Commercialization of Childhood'.  It's an hour long documentary that talks about how these companies specifically target our children, how they study them to figure out how to sell things better to children, how to get children to throw the best fits to get what they want and how much money we are wasting, and how our children are loosing their childhood.


The part i find most disturbing is around minute mark 40 when they start talking about how they are targeting BABIES to sell their products.  I think once you watch this fill you will be just about as disturbed as i am.
After you watch this film, please, share your thoughts with me, i'd love to hear them!

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

The Beauty of a Mother

I want to share this picture that i ran across a few weeks ago.  I think it ties into my previous post very well. 

There is so much hate out there about our bodies, especially postpartum mothers.  We hate the stretch marks, to sag, the bulge, the pooch.  We look at what society considers beauty and feel inadequate next to it. 

We need to remember the miraculous, wonderful, AMAZING thing our bodies did!  We were partners with God to make something amazing, something no one else can do.  We are mothers and we are beautiful!  

Yes, our bodies may not ever be the same again, but life will never be the same again.  We must remember this and remember that we are all daughters of God, and we are all beautiful.

And if you are a mother struggling with how you look postpartum i *highly* suggest checking out the website, The Shape of a Mother.  I love that site! 

The Whale and the Mermaid

Hello hello my friends!

Sorry i've been MIA, and sorry i keep making excuses.  I think i've mentioned before that life is extremely hectic right now and we're just trying to get moved into our new house, but problem after problem keep arising. 

But i have not forgotten you!  Today i ran across a photo and an analogy i wanted to share with you :)

French model Tara Lynn

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.
But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "
French model Tara Lynn     

UK model Chloe Marshall

Australian model Crystal Renn
Kailee O'Sullivan
Two of my beautiful sisters
My beautiful mother and me
My beautiful sister in law
A beautiful friend

Another beautiful sister in law

You are all beautiful!!

How Amazing are we?

Sunday, September 4, 2011

The Hazards of Hospitals

 If you haven't ever thought about how safe your local hospital really is, today might be the day you start that thought process.  When we are ill and need help it's the first place many think of, but it might not be the best place.  At the very least you need to be on top of your game and make sure you are getting the best care you can.

Created by: Medical Billing and Coding


Still not sure?  Then what about this article

Your Go-To Hospital For Dirty Speculums

And now i have to edit this post to include this video about a 17 year in Florida who impersanated a medical assistant for a WEEK in a hospital.  He did exams, changed IVs and even did CPR!

'Doogie Howser Wannabee' Matthew Scheidt Busted in Florida


I could go on, but i need to get going.  Such a busy life.  I have some other articles i've been wanting to share, so i hope to do that soon! 

So, i know we all have them, do any of you want to share a story about a bad experience from the hospital that put you, your loved ones or so on life in danger?

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Life gets busy, but busy is good

So our life has been a little hectic lately and i'm really looking forward to the future.  *Hopefully* by the end of this month if everything goes well my husband and i will be purchasing our first home (ok, so we won't own it, the mortgage company who is giving us the loan will, but you know what i mean).  This decision came out of left field but we are very excited.  We have always felt that before we would/could buy a house we needed to pay off our student loans (about $9,000) and then save up as close to 20% of a down payment as we could.  Needless to say our loans are not paid off an we only have about a 4% down payment...

But we've put a lot of though into this decision.  To rent a 3 bedroom home where we live is around $1,000-$2,000 + utilities.  Our price range is about $800.  This would maybe get us a run down 2 bedroom which would be ok for now but not for the growing family we want.  One thing i HATE in life is moving.  I cannot stand it!  And so to get a place for only a year or two and then have to move again is NOT my idea of a good time.  So we looked into buying a house.

We decided on what would be a comfortable monthly payment after the mortgage, property taxes, PMI (private mortgage insurance since we do not have the 20% down) and all that other lovely stuff and then that decided our maximum price for a home.  Then we searched for houses online we though we'd like and drove to each house and looked and the neighborhood and the outside of the house.  If we didn't like what we saw we threw the listing out and never thought of it again.  Then we went with our relator and looked at the houses we did like and in the end we found the house we our buying :)

It's a lovely 3 bed 1 bath home around 1,150sqft.  It is listed for $120,000 so our monthly mortgage payment will be $850 and then we have utilities and maintenance on top of that.  Not bad at all for owning our own place since we couldn't come near a deal like that if we were renting :)  It is an adorable little house that has new vinyl windows, new vinyl siding, central air and heat, a new water heater, insulation in the attic and it has 7 raised garden beds and a clothes line in the yard along with a garden shed and covered carport and a fully fenced yard.  Just what we were looking for.

I am so excited to finally get settled into our own home.  Before we move in we are going to have to have the house rewired since nothing in the house is grounded (it's all 2-wiring).  And then i'm going to paint and i also want to pull up the carpets (which are a lovely *pink* color) and re-finish the wood floors underneath.  It will be a lot of work but i think in the end i'm gonna love it and it will be worth it.

Hopefully if everything goes well we'll be able to sign papers next week but for sure by the end of the month.

So needless to day i am very excited.  I've been pouring endlessly over blogs and book for decorating ideas and i have non stop thoughts of things i would like to do.  I cannot *wait* to have my own yard that i can tend to.  Our own garden to grown delicious healthy food.  And have our own chickens with fresh eggs!  oh that will be so much fun!! (we already have 2 hens that i got from a friend).

  I really cannot wait.  So here's to crossing our fingers!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Sharing a blog post: NFP: There's an app for that!

My friend has written another post on NFP, also known as Natural Family Planning.  It has to do with a new tool available to those who want to follow NFP.  It makes me want to go out and get a smart phone!  Just passing it on for those who want the information.

NFP: There's an app for that!

Saturday, June 4, 2011

The Green Thing

Found this on facebook today and wanted to pass it on.
The Green Thing
In the line at the store, the cashier told the older woman that she should bring her own grocery bag because plastic bags weren't good for the environment.

The woman apologized to him and explained, "We didn't have the green thing back in my day."

The clerk responded, "That's our problem today. The former generation did not care enough to save our environment."

He was right, that generation didn't have the green thing in its day.

Back then, they returned their milk bottles, soda bottles and beer bottles to the store. The store sent them back to the plant to be washed and sterilized and refilled, so it could use the same bottles over and over. So they really were recycled.

But they didn't have the green thing back in that customer's day.

In her day, they walked up stairs, because they didn't have an escalator in every store and office building. They walked to the grocery store and didn't climb into a 300-horsepower machine every time they had to go two blocks.

But she was right. They didn't have the green thing in her day.

Back then, they washed the baby's diapers because they didn't have the throw-away kind. They dried clothes on a line, not in an energy gobbling machine burning up 220 volts - wind and solar power really did dry the clothes. Kids got hand-me-down clothes from their brothers or sisters, not always brand-new clothing.

But that old lady is right, they didn't have the green thing back in her day.

Back then, they had one TV, or radio, in the house - not a TV in every room. And the TV had a small screen the size of a handkerchief, not a screen the size of the state of Montana. In the kitchen, they blended and stirred by hand because they didn't have electric machines to do everything for you.

When they packaged a fragile item to send in the mail, they used a wadded up old newspaper to cushion it, not Styrofoam or plastic bubble wrap.

Back then, they didn't fire up an engine and burn gasoline just to cut the lawn. They used a push mower that ran on human power. They exercised by working so they didn't need to go to a health club to run on treadmills that operate on electricity.

But she's right, they didn't have the green thing back then.

They drank from a fountain when they were thirsty instead of using a cup or a plastic bottle every time they had a drink of water.

They refilled their writing pens with ink instead of buying a new pen, and they replaced the razor blades in a razor instead of throwing away the whole razor just because the blade got dull.

But they didn't have the green thing back then.

Back then, people took the streetcar or a bus and kids rode their bikes to school or rode the school bus instead of turning their moms into a 24-hour taxi service. They had one electrical outlet in a room, not an entire bank of sockets to power a dozen appliances.

And they didn't need a computerized gadget to receive a signal beamed from satellites 2,000 miles out in space in order to find the nearest pizza joint.

But isn't it sad the current generation laments how wasteful the old folks were just because they didn't have the green thing back then?

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Friday, May 27, 2011

Happy 2nd Birthday

Today is my daughter's 2nd birthday. 
It's a day full of many emotions. 
This is true for many parents on their child's birthday, but for me and my husband, it is even more so.

When i was 20 weeks pregnant we had a routine ultrasound to find out our baby's gender.  It was at that appointment that we learned our daughter (we did not know she was a girl until after she was born) had no amniotic fluid and we later learned this was caused by cysts in both her kidneys (She had Bilateral Multicystic Dysplastic Kidney Disease, a form of Potter's Syndrome).  Because of this lack of fluid her lungs never developed and we found out that she would not live after she was born, and there was the possibility that she would be stillborn.

Our daughter was born at 32 weeks and lived for 15 minutes after she was born.  She was a beautiful beautiful little girl.  She weighed 2lbs 14oz and was 16 inches long.  She surprised us and had a full head of her father's hair.  She was beyond precious.

I could share hundreds more pictures but there is no time. 

So happy birthday special girl.  Mommy and daddy and your little sister love you so much.  As always we hope you have a great day and enjoy being with your family and friends.  Thank you for everything you've done for us and the love you share.  We're sending so much love right back to you in heaven.

Happy Birthday!

Thursday, May 26, 2011

The problem with sheep

Hello hello!

Yes, it's been a little while but i think i mentioned that my life has been a bit busy. 
But i'm alive and here and about to let off a little steam. 

So i've had many "people" out there complain about me sharing information about things i am passionate about or find interesting.  Most of the time it stems somehow around others not agreeing with my point of view.

And this is FINE.

I do not expect every human being in the world to agree with me.  It would be a very boring world if that became the case.  BUT i do expect people to do their own research.  I have a big issue with people who just follow blindly like sheep.  They may think they have all the information but they are just going with the flow and doing what they think everyone else is doing and what is best because that is just what the world does.  They become sheep.

Wanna know something i've noticed about sheep? (seeings as my family owns a herd)  They will be out grazing and everything is good.  Then one sheep gets ahead of the rest.  The sheep behind her think "WOAH, i must be missing out on something, i need to get ahead!"  So that sheep runs ahead.  Well, not to be outdone, the other sheep start trying to get ahead and before you know it the whole herd is in a full blown run up the dirt road headed to nowhere!

What does this have to do with the "people" you might ask?  Well, like i said, i feel many times people follow blindly.  They see someone doing something and they decide to do the same thing, or even try to one-up them without even knowing the reason why they are doing it in the first place.  (other than they *think* it is the right way to do things, only because they know NO other way)  Soon they are running full speed to no where and they have no idea why.

Life is a journey, and it should mean something!

Please do NOT be sheep!!

I feel in any part of your life, whether it be education, religion, health, parenting, etc etc, you should not just follow someone else, or take someone else's word.  Take a little time and do a little research (and researching both sides of a subject is always best to get the whole picture) and decide what is best for YOU. 

Do something because you actually feel is is the best thing in your life, not because you're trying to make a point.  People like that just make me think of the teenager who is rebelling against their parents just because they don't want to listen to their parents.  They don't even take into consideration that their parents may be more experienced in that certain subject and *might* just might know a better way.  All they think about is 'there is NO WAY i'm gonna listen to my parents' and off to nowhere they run (or off the cliff lol).   Sure, i rebelled against my parents but it doesnt' mean it was the smart thing to do!

I am constantly learning new things and changing my mind about things i thought i'd never do.  Before i had children i thought that we would have hospital births (natural of course), breastfeed for a year, have a nursery, use disposable diapers, let baby 'cry it out', circumcise, use a stroller and other things. 

Then my sister planted a seed in my mind that i am forever thankful for.  She mentioned things she was hoping to do with her future child.  When she first started to share them i literally though 'YOU ARE NUTS!! Your child is going to turn out so spoiled, you're putting their life in danger and i just can't believe you'd do this!!!'.  But instead of stopping at that thought i instead took things further.  I checked out some books from the library and started to do some reading on the "other side" of things.

I am forever thankful for those seeds my sister planted, and for the common sense i had to research things for *myself* because you know what?  I pretty much turned around 180 degrees in my views about parenting.  Sure, once i started parenting for myself i'd probably figure out how i thought i would do things was not really working for our family, but how long would that would have taken?  And how happy would i be during that time?  I am so thankful i learned about different ways to do things before!

I've had this same experience happen with many other parts of my life.  If my entire viewpoint in life can change about so many things when why can't yours?  Are you really sure you want to do things they way you think you want to do them?  Are you really sure you want to public school?  Are you really sure you'd never consider that religion?  Are you really sure you would never consider going green?

How can you know if you have never really seen the other side of the story?

So please, take some time and consider the choices in your life very carefully.  Go pick up a book and do a little reading.  Has someone mentioned something that you think is crazy?  Go look it up and do a bit of research and see how truly crazy it may not be.

Is there anything in your life that you have changed your mind about once you did your own research and learned more?

Friday, April 22, 2011

Video: When A Baby Dies

This was shared on facebook today and i just could NOT repost this.  It is a very emotional video, and you will probably cry, but, i feel it is good to watch since it might help you to understand how someone feels who has lost a child.  I know that i could and can say everything that was shared in this video.  I have felt all of it.

May 27th marks our daughter's 2 year birthday.  I miss her every single day.  We have a second daughter now, but that doesn't mean my pain has gone away....it helps in ways, but it also hurts. 

Please, just take 5 minutes to watch this video...maybe you will understand me better....

Thursday, April 21, 2011

I'm sorry i haven't posted in a while.  We are in the middle of packing up to move and so life has just been a bit hectic for me to write anything super indepth.

so, instead i'll post the 3rd article written by me friend about Natural Family Planning

Educate Yourself: Natural Family Planning and How It's Healthy

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Greening Up

For a while now i've been wanting to "green up" my life when it comes to my beauty products.  The more i've been reading about the toxic things in our beauty products (what am i saying, in pretty much everything around us...) and the effects it has on our health the more i've been saying NOT FOR ME.  If you want to know what i'm talking about, i suggest this article:

Chemicals In Cosmetics: What You Need To Know

 I think the first step i took in trying to "green" myself up was when i found out i was pregnant with DD2 i decided i was not going to paint my nails anymore (EDIT: now that i think about it, my first step was to stop using traditional menstrual products and get a cup, but that is another post!).  There are some nasty things in nail polish (as you can probably tell by the smell).  You can read a bit about it here:

Toxic Nail Polish

Pretty nasty sounding isn't it?  I didn't want to be putting that stuff on my nails for my body to absorb to be passed on to my growing baby.  So i haven't painted my nails in over a year now.  And honestly, i don't miss it too much.  Yeah...it was fun to have hot pink or lime green nails in the summer, but at what cost? 

My next step was to stop using so many toxic things in the shower.  The first to go was shaving cream.  This was easy because i just stopped shaving.  Yep, you read that right, since the beginning of the year i have not shaved once.  And i don't think i will anymore.  1.  it's a pain in the underarms for me (i get HORRID ingrown hairs), 2. i barely have time to wash my body let alone shave anymore, 3. my legs aren't that hair anyways and my husband thinks they are soft even when i don't shave, so what's the point, and 4.  why should i have to?  I have given myself permission that if i feel the need, i'm allowed to trim my underarms, but no shaving this year at least :)

Then after giving up the shaving cream i decided that next to go is my shampoo and conditioner.  Now this is where most people think i have really gone nuts.  Sure, they could let the no nail polish go with no problem, and shaving...well, that's not too horrible either.  But not using shampoo or conditioner!?!  Oh how will my hair ever be clean???


For one, just water and my hands will get most of the grime out of my hair.  But for now i'm washing my hair using baking soda and apple cider vinegar.  You see, washing your hair with a detergent all the time (which is what shampoo is) strips away all the natural, GOOD oil from your hair.  This oil works on a supply and demand basis.  The more you wash it away, the more it makes (works the same as breastfeeding).  So if you stop stripping the oil away and instead try to work *with* your body, your hair will (in most cases) make only enough oil to keep your hair healthy. 

I am already a person who doesn't wash her hair regularly.  Yeah, that's right, i only wash my hair maybe once a week!  And it's NEVER been overly greasy :)  So i figured making the switch to not using any shampoo would be easy.

So i decided to start after i had a procedure to get a mole removed from my scalp, since i wouldn't be able to wash my hair for a while anyways.  The day before i washed my hair for the last time and then went 2 weeks before ever actually using anything on my hair.  This was because my scalp was VERY tender around the stitches site and i didn't want to use anything that would irritate and such.  So for 2 weeks i just rinsed my hair with water and i used a washcloth to kinda pet my hair in a downward motion to distribute the oils to the rest of my hair.  And that worked fine.  Then after 2 weeks i finally did my now normal wash routine.  I took one tablespoon of baking soda and rubbed it into my scalp and then rinsed it.  I then took one tablespoon of apple cider vinegar and slowly poured a bit at a time on my scalp and rubbed it into the roots and shaft of my hair.  Then i rinsed and that's it, done. 

When i got out of the shower and towel dried my hair it was SO SOFT!!  My hair has never been that soft before!  All day i couldn't stop running my fingers through it.  I think DH was getting tiered of me saying 'i can't believe how soft my hair is!!!!'.  It's now been over 3 weeks since i've last traditionally washed my hair and i've done 2 of these "treatments" and my hair is still doing great.  I'm tossing my shampoo and conditioner and never looking back! 

Not only is this so much healthier for me, but it's also healthy for my wallet.  I mean, how expensive is baking soda and vinegar???  Awesome i know!

If you want to learn more about this "crazy" topic, read the articles below:

All about 'No Poo'
The No Shampoo Alternative- No Poo
What is No Poo?
Don't use shampoo again!
How to No Poo
The no poo do

So this is it for now.  My next step is body wash, then toothpaste and then deodorant.  Then we'll see where i go from there.

What about you, what are things you've done to "green up" your beauty routine?

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

How to bring a "tree" into your home: Craft/decoration idea

So i think i need to post something other than information about car seats :)

I was lurking on crafster today and i found this awesome post by a woman to put a "tree" in her foyer.  It looks like a super easy craft and something very fun!

I've got a tree growing in my foyer and it's bringing in SPRING!!

Why I Do What I Do: Car Seat Safety

Today my friend who is a CPST shared a blog post that has been going around the internet.  It is a powerful post about WHY car seat and seat belt safety is SO important!  It takes just 5 minutes to read, but it's a good reminder to make sure your seats are in right!

Friday, March 25, 2011

Kids say the darnest things

I have a nephew who is 3 and boy, does he say some great things.  I was going over some things he's said (that his dad posted) and i wanted to share them since they are so funny!  My nephew's "name" is "Buggaboo" and he is 3 years old.

buggaboo quote of the week: (After just leaving Ikea) Me: What's wrong Boo? buggaboo: "I'm sad." Me: "Why are you sad?" buggaboo: "I want to LIVE at that store!" Me: "I think everybody does boo; I think everybody does."
buggaboo quote of the week: "hey, there's my friend!" Me: "Do you know that kid?" buggaboo: "All little kids are my friend." Me: "Well that's cool." buggaboo: "You... you're not a kid... you're not my friend." Me: "That's right! I'm not your friend, I'm your Dad."
Buggaboo: "But you're like a little kid. You play hide in go seek, and hide in giggle (Not sure what that one is?), and you play games with me." Me: "Well buggaboo, you can grow old, but you can always be young at heart."

(We enter the scene with BuggaBoo, Doozer, and Mommy watching Daddy play "Heroes of Might and Magic 5", a fantasy game...)
BuggaBoo: (seeing some minotaurs) What are those?
...Daddy: They're half bulls, half people, they're called minotaurs.
BuggaBoo: Are they like cows?
Mommy: Yes, they're like cows.
BuggaBoo: I'm talking to Daddy.
Daddy: Yes, they're like cows.
BuggaBoo. Oh. (to Mommy) They're like cows, Mommy.
Mommy: Oh, really...
~buggaboo quote of the week: "I don't like stores!" Krista: "Well that's good because we're not going to any more stores we're going home." buggaboo: "I don't like houses either!" Krista: "Well what do you like?" buggaboo: "Ummm... TOYS!" Krista:" Well that's also good because you have toys at home." buggaboo: "NOOOOOOOOoooo!"
another one between him and his mother:
Me: Hey, put this diaper in the bathroom trash for me. BuggaBoo: The diaper has pee in it?
Me: It sure does, you peed in it!
BuggaBoo: There was pee in my body?
Me: Yep, but not anymore, because you peed it into the diaper.
BuggaBoo: And there is poop in my body.
Me: Probably.
BuggaBoo: And there are feelings in my body!
Me: Well, yes, but not in the same way as poop or pee...
buggaboo quote of the week: buggaboo: "Why is sister crying?" Krista: "I think she's jealous." buggaboo: "Peanut... peanut butter... and JEALOUS!"
bugga quote of the week: "Ahhhhh! MY EGGS ARE MELTING!" Krista: "That's just the yoke buggaboo; they're fine." buggaboo: "I don't like it."
buggaboo quote of the week: "Eew, this tastes like winter!" Krista: "Did you just say it tastes like winter?" buggaboo: "Yeah, I don't like it."
he was eating Coriander seeds.
buggaboo quote of the week: me: "buggaboo what are you throwing around?" buggaboo: "Horse's nuts!" Me: "Ummm... do you mean horse chestnuts?" buggaboo: "Yeah!" Me: "Ok... just wanted to clarify that."
buggaboo quote of the week: Krista: "Is buggaboo T-I-R-E-D?" buggaboo: "I AM NOT!" Krista: "Do you even know what T-I-R-E-D spells?" buggaboo: "... ... STOP SPELLING!"
buggaboo quote this week- Krista: "Hey buggaboo, you want some cake?" buggaboo: "I DON'T WANT CAKE!" Krista: "It has frosting on it." buggaboo:"I WANT CAKE!"
     The scene opens with the family making a dinner of doughnuts. I have not shame...
Me: Do you want some of this apple fritter, BuggaBoo?
BuggaBoo: No, I'm eating this one (motions to his old-fashioned doughnut)
Me: Oh, do you like that one?
BuggaBoo: Yeah! It tasteses like....mustaches.
 quote of the week: (While taking a walk) "Mommy I need to take a hot shower. I can't breathe good." Krista: "Well being outside will also help your breathing." buggaboo: "Really!? .... What about swallowing bugs?" Krista: "Um.... I don't think swallowing bugs will help your breathing." buggaboo: "Oh... okay."

 quote of the week: "Mommy?" Krista: "Yes Boo?" B: "No it's not me, it's sock puppet!" K:"Oh... yes sock puppet?" B:"NO it's the stripey sock puppet." K:"YES stripey sock puppet?" B:"NO it's the purple and green stripe..." K:"BOO! Sock puppet is good enough!" B: "Ok... .... .... Mommy?" K:"Yes sock puppet?" B:"I'm ready to go now."
quote of the week: "Daddy look at me!" Me: "That's cool Boo." -Not looking. Buggaboo: "No Daddy, Dad, Dad, Dad, look." Me: "I see ahuh." -still not looking. Buggaboo: "Daddy LOOK AT MY FACE!"
quote of the week: Me: "Geez boo you sure are getting heavy; you're a growing boy." Buggaboo: "Yeah, I'm a growing up into a cowBOY!" Me: "Did... did you just say cowboy?" Buggaboo: "YEAH!"
quote of the week: After listening to a song on his pirate CD: "Dad why are there piglets on a pirate ship?" Me not listening correctly: "Well Buggaboo, some pirates just have them." I showed him a picture. B: "No Daddy!" he then goes and gets his picture book to prove me wrong, "Daddy THIS is a piglet." Me laughing: "NOT Pig Lets Buggaboo, PEG LEGS!" B: "Ohhhhh"

What are some fun things your kids have said?